Our inner child is always with us and no matter how old we get, those messages that we were told as children, those disappointing looks, the slaps you got that you never quite understood why and the verbal, physical and even sexual abuse which left you wondering who you were and what you had done to deserve this treatment never leaves you.
Thankfully not all childhoods were plagued with trauma and sadness but for those who were this can cause a lifetime of unexplained anxiety, lack of self love and worth. For some a lack of boundaries and mistrust can influence our behaviour and even how we form relationships and how we see ourselves. It can even influence how we parent and raise our own children.
Child abuse in all its forms, be it verbal, physical, neglect or sexual has such an impact on how we grow up as adults and directly shapes how we show up in the world.
Have you ever wondered why you are unable to form and maintain happy relationship? Have you walked away from job opportunities that you don't think are meant for you due to a lack of confidence? How many times have you allowed others to push you around without putting up firm boundaries around yourself because you don't believe you deserve better?
If only it was possible to find that young child, your inner child and have a conversation and tell that inner child how amazing, how brave, how loved they were and all those things you needed to hear then. Imagine how freeing that would be and how that child could have grown up and what they could have achieved if they only knew how valuable they were and how much they deserved to be happy.
Well it is possible and since having a word with myself, since speaking kindly, lovingly and forgivingly to my inner child my life has changed. It has been easier to heal knowing that those things which happened to me as a child were not my fault and allowing myself to hear the words I needed to hear all those years ago, 50 years ago in fact when my sexual abuse started and totally threw me into a different world one which made me doubt, dislike and mistrust myself and my capabilities. One which made me unable to set boundaries and ended up in unhappy relationships, domestic violence, lacking self worth and love.
Now I have honoured my inner child and shown her the respect and love I always deserved
I no longer allow myself to be disrespected, I no longer fear change and I now live my life on my terms knowing that I am enough and so very deserving of all good things.
How we speak to ourselves matter. How we view ourselves and what we believe we deserve matter.
Are you ready to heal from within by speaking to your inner child and setting yourself free? If this seems daunting and even a bit silly, don't worry you are not alone. I did not understand how important this was in my healing journey either so if this is something you would like to do, book a free 30 minute discovery call with me and let's get you talking to your inner child.
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